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Author: ojinoto
Trying to do good. Born and raised and living in NYC.
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Sometimes I hesitate to post something from fear of being a hypocrite, or condescending, or arrogantly naive.
For instance: How do I know this something is for sure?
How can I encourage, enlighten and remind people when I so often need encouragement, enlightenment and reminding ?
Please know that I am human too. Please allow for humanity when this website is trying to help…
Thank You
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I cant do anything
Yes, you can. Humans are the most intelligent species known on this planet. You are limited only by your belief that you are limited.
Human history is full of individuals and groups overcoming obstacles that were thought to be insurmountable. Anything can be overcome. Any problem, issue, or obstacle can be overcome, because we have the ability to continually improve ourself. Humans can identify an obstacle, and working together or alone, (with Faith), can use the mind to find a solution, or suitable way forward.
Every ‘issue’ or problem you encounter, you have the capability to overcome. This means that you can do anything.
Addendum:
The answer you want may not be the answer you receive. But you will always have a way forward, somewhere in time and space…or elsewhere
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You do not truly succeed if you are taking advantage of others. When you hold people back, you prevent your own growth. To build, you must build everyone and everything you interact with. Everyone and everything you work with. When you build in this manner, each component becomes stronger for your benefit. Even if you achieve goals by taking advantage, you are holding yourself back from much more than this, you have reached a miniscule step upon a colossal ladder that leads to other than your best interest.
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Things will not change unless you change them, you have to take an active role in anything you want to change. Even thinking or feeling differently about something is an active role.
By thinking or feeling differently towards something you change your perspective, and more change occurs.
“SOW THE SEED THAT BINDS YOU
FEEL THE STEEL THAT SIGNS YOU
PUT UP ALL YOUR RESOURCES
AND WALK INTO THE MAGIC”
-Mom
I’ve just completed my first year completely free from any alcohol ingestion.
I somehow do not feel as proud to say this as I thought I would. It’s actually humbling, bringer of humility. It’s not that I don’t want to drink, it’s that I feel I cant. I am scared for my Life, literally.
I am so grateful to have this year. I had
doubted myself many times on my ability to remain alcohol free. And then I had this dream last year. And it was frightening enough, real enough, possible enough to convince me my next drink could and would be catastrophic for the personal safety of myself and others.
And so I’m here, 1 year later, somehow not having drank. Amazed and thankful at the grace that has brought me to today in this way.
I thought I would be full of gusto and pride at this 1year mark. Instead, I am humbled…there is no vanquished foe. I am choosing not to battle. I am choosing not to gamble.
I have fought with the entity before, a larger-than monster that I introduce to the Sword of Imbibing. Sometimes I would walk or run or stumble away feeling victorious. I faced it and showed my ability and had a good time and still had Life and limbs. Sometimes I would come out of the battle with an injured dignity, or injured relationships; the entity knows how to inflict injury. So far everything has been salvageable.
Now, it is not me galloping into the arena, jumping off the horse with sword aimed at the entity. No. I do not want to gamble here anymore with Life and death.
I lay the sword down, and walk around the entity, leaving it to look at me as I walk. I don’t know how long it looks, or what it does after, because as I walk around it…
I look away.
Help me, to remain sober and free of alcohol.
Thank you
“This young woman knew that she would die in the next few days. But when I talked to her she was cheerful in spite of this knowledge. ‘I am grateful that fate has hit me so hard,’ she told me. ‘In my former life I was spoiled and did not take spiritual accomplishments seriously.’ Pointing through the window of the hut, she said, ‘This tree here is the only friend I have in my loneliness.’ Through that window she could see just one branch of a chestnut tree, and on the branch were two blossoms. ‘I often talk to this tree,’ she said to me. I was startled and didn’t quite know how to take her words. Was she delirious? Did she have occasional hallucinations? Anxiously I asked her if the tree replied. ‘Yes.’ What did it say to her? She answered, ‘It said to me, “I am here–I am here–I am life, eternal life.” ‘ ”
-Viktor E. Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning
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“You can’t make someone else’s choices. You shouldn’t let someone else make yours.”
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“Sometimes you literally have to grab yourself by the collar and pick yourself up.
The secret is momentum. Once you start you keep going. You dont stop.”
-Tashan
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When You Get Down, Get Up
when you get down, get up
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You are a unique combination of potential. Everything is a potential, if it is a potential on the subatomic layer
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You make the decision about who you’re going to be
Right there, an important decision means who you’re going to be
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Remember Your Goal
Remember your Goal, and always look for,
be open to opportunities for the next step.
Activates Law of Attraction
Faith is your ground.
It is what you look at.
When you are unsure,
look down
You are standing on Rock
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Your Thought Vessel
These are the thoughts that appear in your awareness. They affect you greatly, how you act, how you progress. They affect your perspective, which creates the canvass for your world.
When you say “I suck at this” or “I’m not good enough”, if you feel and believe what you are saying, you brain makes it so. Your brain will work and work constantly to build you into what you wish (think), it truly is the greatest muscle.
Normal muscles go only in so many directions, but the brain can take you to anywhere you tell it to.
To improve you must remove all negative influences in your life. They each are like holes in your vessel, no matter how small, they work only to impede your progress. The strongest, quickest most reliable vessel is the one with a solid hull; stable, whole, able to master the greatest of storms encountered. Every hole will work to impede you, no matter the size or shape. You must repair each one.
No matter how big or small, all sources of negativity must be replaced with objects/sources of growth.
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“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.”
-Henry David Thoreau
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With Faith comes natural appreciation.
Without Faith, anything you do
does not look as valuable to you
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I AM CHANGING THIS PLANET
THRU THE NOW
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Your Heart Is Good
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Everything changes
In which direction will you take it?
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If you have strong enough
Faith, anything can
happen, right now,
in this moment,
regardless of what
is occurring
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I Hope You Dance
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances, but they’re worth taking
Loving might be a mistake, but it’s worth making
Don’t let some hell-bent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out, reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder, where those years have gone
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance
Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder, where those years have gone
–Lee Ann Womack
This is a beautiful song
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Faith and fear eat eachother. It’s up to you to decide who eats who.
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Everyone has a different path, a different route
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Even when things are frustrating, organizing the next steps feels good